I’ve been a Grief Consultant for over 17 years. During this time, I’ve had grievers ask me an important question:
“Is it ok to question God?”
Sometimes, they’ll rephrase this and say, “As soon as I get to heaven, I’m going to ask God (and then they’ll fill in the blank of all they’ll question Him about.”
Grief is excruciating. When you go through a terrible tragedy, it’s completely normal and natural to want answers. The heart pleads for answers…you’ll desperately want to know why something so terrible happened.
If you have ever been through a devastating grief experience, you most likely have pleaded with God in your heart for answers,
If you have ever brought your questions to God after a heartbreaking death or tragedy, you’re in good company.
Both Jesus & David cried out to God and brought their heart wrenching questions to Him as a way of seeking to understand their situation and pain (Matt 27:46, Psalm 42:9, Psalm 22:1-2).
God doesn’t turn against someone, or count it against them, if they question why a tragedy happened. To feel what you need to feel, to seek God for answers, & to work out your grief through questions are ALL healthy ways of grieving & processing pain.
It opens the door to having open, transparent, & HONEST conversations with God.
God doesn’t want people to feel trapped in grief or heartache…He welcomes authentic, transparent conversation when someone is experiencing emotional pain.
We’re not to argue with God (Isaiah 45:9)…but we can go to Him with the deepest questions in our heart.
Seek His heart if you are struggling…that is the beginning of true, heartfelt intimacy with God.
Think about this quote this week. It’s solid information to align our hearts with God:
“It’s ok to ask God questions. It’s not ok to question God. Asking questions seeks understanding and deeper faith, which God welcomes. Questioning God, however, is a challenge to His authority or character—it implies that you know better than the Creator.” ~ Tony Evans
Grief is tough.
Bringing our questions to God is vital.
We may or may not receive the answers we’re seeking, but I can tell you after walking through over 80 major personal grief experiences:
When it feels like I can’t trust God’s plans, I choose to trust God’s heart….and He has carried me through excruciating grief, and has tenderly walked with me and helped me through my despair and questions.
Seek God’s heart this week. Bring your questions to Him. Pour your heart out to God and bring Him all your pain, worries, fear, struggles, and concerns. God loves you so much and will help you everyday — especially through your worst days.
Have a blessed & peaceful week,
Kim
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