Anyone who has been through deep grief knows firsthand how it can affect relationships.
Grief can be extra challenging when it comes to family relationships.
Our families are who we are most comfortable around…and sadly, they’re who we show our hurts and frustrations to the most.
Did you know that 75% of parents will get divorced after the death of a child and even more will divorce when a child has a disability?
People may say and do things during deep grief that can be very uncharacteristic of their true nature. That is why it is so important to safeguard and treasure our families more than ever during times of grief.
Compassion and empathy are absolutely key in helping our family relationships to survive and thrive during our toughest storms in life.
It takes time for a broken heart to heal, and it takes time to find a working “new normal”. Like a hurricane, grief changes everything and has the capacity to damage everything in its path. It truly takes having a game plan to ensure that family relationships do not suffer.
If we are to purposely ensure that our family relationships remain healthy during times of deep grief, it is vital for grieving families to:
1. Be there for each other
2. Show compassion to one another
3. Allow each other to grieve how each needs to grieve (this is a HUGE one because everyone grieves differently)
4. Be respectful and kind to one another
5. Support one another by helping each other with day-to-day responsibilities and remembering appointments and important events (buying a calendar and having each family member write down their appointments and events on the calendar will alleviate stress and will eliminate communication mishaps. Grief can make people forget appointments, events, special occasions, etc.)
6. Be forgiving of each other and refuse to play the “blame game”. During grief or loss, it is easy to want to project our hurt or blame onto something or someone else. Depending on the grief experience, this can be incredibly tough to overcome. Sometimes, finding a qualified counselor can be very helpful, one who can help families to work through the pain and blame.
7. Many times, the very best thing a family member can do for another family member is to simply listen and give a big comforting hug
If you are going through grief, remember that your spouse, children, & family members are part of your team. Yes, there are going to be some very tough days to weather together…but resolve today to encourage, love, and support each other through the thick and thin life throws at you.
Treat each other the best you possibly can and love each other well!
Draw close together as you walk through your storm together!
©2014 by Kim Niles/Grief Bites. All rights reserved.
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