Growing up, my siblings and I lived for Saturday mornings! Cartoons and bowls of cereal – or doughnuts if we were super lucky – were the highlight of our week!
We never missed watching the popular cartoon, Super Friends. We loved watching the plot unfold and never failed to be impressed by how their super powers saved the day.
My husband also enjoyed watching comic character based TV shows and movies during his childhood. Since the first year we met, my husband and I have always randomly connected our fists and said, “Wonder Twin powers activate”…and then we say two random objects to transform into (if we can’t think of anything original or funny, an eagle and a bucket of water is our favorite cliche go-to). It’s our little inside joke and a fun way to quickly connect and add humor to our relationship.
Our adult son is also a huge comic fan. ComicCon with my son is a fun tradition as well! And with my son, you only make the mistake once…just once, I tell you…with saying the characters are in the wrong universe. I’ve learned throughout the years that Batman is not in the Marvel group and the Hulk is not DC…I found this out when my son slowly shook his head one day and said, “How are you even my mother not knowing who belongs to which universe?”😂
I’m sure many of you loved cartoons while growing up and are comic fans, too!
So how about that ending of the latest Avengers movie…😡
Just kidding…we won’t even go there!
I think most kiddos, at one point or another during their childhood, have dreamed about having super powers – the ability to have supernatural strength or do something extraordinary and powerful!
What if I told you that you do have the ability to do something extraordinary and powerful…and gain insurmountable strength every single day.
I don’t know anyone who can lift an airplane with one hand…but I do know of some family members and friends who can lift the entire mood of a room.
I don’t know of anyone who can smash through brick walls…but I do know of some who can smash through some very concrete hard obstacles.
I don’t know of anyone who can transform like the Wonder Twins (well, other than my hubby and me🤗), but I do know of some family and friends who have powerfully transformed their lives – at a miraculous level, with God’s help – after they experienced debilitating grief or tough circumstances.
If I could pinpoint these amazing abilities down to one superpower, then that superpower would be the power of positivity.
In life, and also grief, you learn just how incredibly important positivity is.
We all develop one of two things intentionally or by default every single day: positivity or negativity.
I’m not talking about fluffy, cheesy, fake positivity as philosophical annoying babbles of positive cliches are spoken.
Cliches such as, “Fake it until you make it”…”They’re in a better place”…”Look at the bright side”…”Find the silver lining”…”There’s a light at the end of every dark tunnel”…
I think these are positive attempts at helping others (or even ourselves) feel better – and these statements may even be true – but I don’t consider these statements authentic positivity.
I think to gain genuine positivity, you must (majority of the time) go through life challenges. Positivity (along with other character attributes) are hard-earned treasures God grants those who go through extremely dark, deep waters.
“I will give you hidden treasures, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the Lord, the God of Israel, who summons you by name.” ~Isaiah 45:3
“When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned; the hard trials that come will not hurt you.” ~Isaiah 43:2
Positivity isn’t just developed through trials or suffering, positivity is also a choice.
It is sometimes extremely difficult to be positive during certain situations. Notice I didn’t say about situations…but during situations. There are some circumstances – such as the death of a loved one, a divorce, or other tough loss – that there isn’t much positivity to be found.
Positivity is like a muscle…it initially can hurt as you develop it, it can wear you out, but with each decision to grow and expand positivity, you find new strength. After awhile, it becomes as second nature as breathing. Just as muscle is best developed through grit, positivity is highly developed through grief, trials, perseverance, and choice.
I firmly believe that positivity is a superpower. It literally can make or break a life. Positivity, or a lack of, can dramatically build or destroy a relationship, goal, dream, or endeavor…it can make the difference between business and career success or failure. Positivity can create harmony and calm in marriages and families. It literally affects every area of life.
Positivity isn’t tricking your mind into thinking everything is going to be okay…it’s training your mind to understand that you have a choice in the matter.
It’s not fluffily believing that your best days are ahead of you…it’s pre-determining that you will do whatever it takes to ensure they will be.
Positivity is not blindly pushing away or forgetting the past, past grief, or lost loved ones…it’s deciding you will learn valuable life lessons throughout these hard times and implement that hard earned wisdom in your future.
Positivity is individually developed and decided…and needs to be guarded in the heart of each person.
It gets you through the hard times.
Sustains you through stagnant times.
And continually builds an excitement for life and the days to come.
So how do you develop positivity?
My next blog post will share some of my favorite ways!
Gratitude and blessings,
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