When it all comes down to it…

Ever experience a day you didn’t plan on…but God had it scheduled?

The past three days have been that way for me. And I am so very thankful!

This year has been an extremely tough year.

I’ve experienced four family members’ deaths (I was with three of them when they died)…three friends’ deaths…major health complications of multiple family members…I was referred to an oncologist…and many difficult situations.

2022 has not been a fun year.

This week, I’ve been sick and on bedrest. At first, I panicked…it’s the worst time for this to happen — right before Christmas. I have an absolute TON to do.

The first day of being on bedrest, I cried. Pure frustration. I’m not sure…actually, I’m absolutely sure…I haven’t processed all of the grief that’s happened. It’s a lot. Being on bedrest forces you … invites you … to confront things you may not have wanted to sort through. I took some much needed time to really think about each treasured loved one our family lost…and each loss and heartache. It was much needed.

The second day, I was still worried about all I still need to do before Christmas…and was super sad I’m not going to be able to do my usual Christmas traditions leading up to Christmas Day…many of which I do every year in honor and memory of my loved ones.

Then, being convicted of caring about all the “fluff” of Christmas, I decided to clean my heart up with God…pretty much did an inventory of my heart and life and talked to God about everything. Much, much needed.

The third day, I’m feeling much better. As I was on social media earlier, a friend had posted videos of his family worshiping Jesus through Christmas songs. It really convicted my heart for being so worried about Christmas. Because of this, I decided to have a better perspective.

As I’ve had time to think about everything…it’s even more important to me to live each day with purpose. To clean out all of the clutter – the things that distract from what really matters – and simplify life.

This year has taught me so much … it’s taught me how it’s so important to realize this world is not our home. Heaven is our home. Earth is simply a training ground for heaven — it’s where we learn to best love and serve God, and be good to others. We will have a purpose in heaven..so it’s wise to continually develop an eternal perspective.

I know I’m not the only one who has experienced an extremely heartbreaking year…so many have had a heartbreaking year as well. Yet…I know the following with my whole heart:

  • God does all things well – even when life doesn’t feel or seem well
  • God is faithful and trustworthy
  • God is good
  • God is love and loves all of us so much

And after the first two days of my pity-party bedrest…and cleaning my heart up…I realize:

  • It’s not about the gifts
  • It’s not about the baking
  • It’s not about the decorations
  • It’s not about the family gatherings, traditions, and events

It’s completely about Jesus.

Here I was worrying about the commercial side and traditions of Christmas …instead of just focusing on Jesus. Instead of appreciating and enjoying what a true miracle Christmas truly is. And it put in perspective all of the grief events my family and I have endured this year.

My focus leading up to bedrest was wrong…being worried about things that in the grand scheme of things…just. don’t. really. matter.

I’m thankful I took the time to allow God to clean up and reset my heart…so I can fully delight in Jesus and rest in the best Gift of the season — Him. Simply, purely Him.

If we look at life through a worldly lens…we can become worried and stressed…even depressed. We can panic….freak out…worry…focus on the wrong things.

When we look at life through a heavenly lens, we are freed up to fully dedicate our heart, life, and purpose to our Heavenly Father…and trust Him.

Today, let’s ask God to show us what truly matters…let’s ask Him to show us His love like never before…ask Him to help us see life through HIS lens…ask Him to reveal the full meaning of Christmas to our heart in a new way.

God loves you, cares deeply for you, and has a good plan. Let’s ask Him to give us the grace to trust Him, love Him, and serve Him – especially when going through tough situations. Especially these final days of the Christmas season.

I’m actually extremely grateful for illness today. Sometimes, we need to quiet our hearts and focus on the true meaning of Jesus and Christmas…and the true treasures of Christmas, Jesus, loved ones, and life.

These next few days, give yourself permission to simplify life…allow God to clean up and refresh your heart…invite Him into your heartache and ask Him to make something of great value come from it.. relish in the miracle of Christmas…treasure God’s love for you…focus on what truly matters.

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas filled with God’s love & richest blessings!



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